Great Sex During Your Pregnancy

sex during pregnancyMany of my pregnant patients ask me if it is safe to have sex during their pregnancy and at what point should they cease sexual activity.  Good questions and here are some answers for you.

  1. YES! You can have all the sex you want during your pregnancy.  Your baby (who is safe and protected by amniotic fluid, your uterus and the muscles surrounding your uterus) will be just fine given no other complications of placenta issues or preterm labor.
  2. Sex during pregnancy will not be the cause of a miscarriage. In general, miscarriages occur because the development of the fetus is abnormal.  The mother’s body will know this and Mother Nature will take its course.
  3. Positions, positions and positions. There are multiple positions a couple can take during sex.  As your body grows, find what is most comfortable for you.  Have fun and experiment with new positions and play with different methods of mutual stimulation and arousal.
  4. Practice safe sex if you are not in a monogamous relationship or you have sex with a new partner during your pregnancy. STDs contracted during pregnancy can lead to very serious health risks for both you and your unborn child.  If your partner has an active outbreak or has been recently diagnosed with an STD, avoid any oral, vaginal and anal sex.  Protect yourself and your baby!

 

Signs When You Should Not Have Sex

You should check with your obstetrician is you have any of the following:

– you have cervical incompetence (your cervix opens prematurely)

– you are leaking amniotic fluid or you experience vaginal bleeding

– you have placenta previa (your placenta is covering your cervical opening)

– you have a past history of going into preterm labor or delivering prematurely

Sex Drive

Many women do not feel pretty, sexy or just don’t feel well during a pregnancy.  Hormonal changes can cause fatigue, breast tenderness, overstimulation of the pelvic floor and general discomfort.  This is all normal and it’s OK if you’re simply just not in the mood.  Discuss your trepidations and concerns with your partner and find what will work for you both.  Remember, it takes two to tango!  Sometimes, a loving caress, a couple’s massage or just kissing can be satisfying.  Work it out together and remember, this is only a temporary situation.

Relax

This is a very special time for you and your partner.  Take it all in stride and try to enjoy every minute of your pregnancy.  You are creating another human being and not everyone has the capability of accomplishing this feat of nature.  Common sense rules, so use it.  If you have any questions, consult your healthcare practitioner and don’t be bashful or shy with your questions.  Believe me, we’ve heard many stories and not much surprises us.  The only stupid question is the one that isn’t asked.  Many years past, I worked with Dr. Ruth Westheimer, whose parting greeting to the staff daily was ‘good sex everybody!’.  So, I leave you with dear Ruth’s mantra – good sex, everybody!

May is Pelvic Pain Awareness Month

Pelvic pain can be defined as chronic pain (experienced for more than 6 months) that is not menstrual (period pain for females). Pelvic pain affects both men and women and can present as some of the following symptoms:

  • Sexual dysfunction
  • Painful penetration
  • Painful orgasm
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Generalized pelvic pain
  • Post surgical pain
  • Prostatitis
  • PCOS/Endometriosis
  • Scar tissue pain
  • Yeast infections & Urinary Tract Infections (UTIs)
  • Incontinence
  • Constipation & bowel disorders
  • Postpartum pain

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The endometrium is the mucous membrane that lines the uterus.  During the menstrual cycle, this lining thickens, allowing the possibility of a successful implantation of an embryo.   Endometriosis is a condition that occurs when the cells that line the endometrium of the womb or uterus lining are found somewhere else in the body. Common sights are the pelvic peritoneum, ovaries, bladder and bowels.  Some women with this condition experience mild discomfort, while many suffer from extreme pain, heavy periods and infertility.  Endometriosis is a long-term condition that affects millions of women worldwide.  It is commonly diagnosed in females age 25 to 40 years and rarely occurs after menopause.
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Did you know that heart disease is the number one cause of death for women?  Women frequently miss the symptoms of a heart attack because they mistakenly relate heart disease as a ‘man’s disease’.  Women who have heart disease tend to believe that symptoms such as sweating, chest pressure, nausea, and jaw pain are synonymous with menopause, the flu, stress or simply feeling under the weather.  Many women just don’t think they could ever have a heart attack.

Disregarding the symptoms of a heart attack can cause death.  Recognizing the signs of heart disease or a heart attack can save lives.
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The Holiday Season is here and here are some happy and healthy tips to get you through the season healthier both physically and mentally.

  • Stay in the Game:  keep up with your exercise routine.  Regular exercise during the holiday season keeps off added pounds and the endorphins the brain releases during a workout can help alleviate stress.  Working hard at the gym always makes us feel better, sleep better and puts us in the mindset to make wiser nutritional choices.
  • Think Green!:  if you are invited to a pot luck event, prepare a dish that is not only delicious, but healthy as well.  Sauteed tuscan kale in a bit of olive oil, balsamic vinegar served with toasted pine nuts on top is not only beautiful, but tasty.  The anti inflammatory properties of dark leafy green vegetables are good for just about everyone and a nice change of a side dish.  Dark leafy green vegetables are a wonderful complement to any type of protein or pasta.  You’ll be surprised how quickly it disappears!
  • Be Kind to Yourself:  life should be about balance.  Schedule time for a nice long hot bath, a massage, a ‘me’ day.  Holidays can be quite stressful with various types of obligations and the stress can tax your immune system.  No one wants to be sick during the holidays, so take a time out at least once weekly.  Try a yoga class or a meditation app.  Schedule a relaxing stress-busting acupuncture session – it could be the best hour you’ve had to relax and reset your mind, body and soul.
  • Give a Gift of Love and Health to a Friend, Colleague or Someone you Love:  gift certificates are available and make great holiday gifts for the people who have ‘everything’.  Call of email the office today and order yours!

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Imagine having a good talk with a friend who tells you that he was on his mountain bike and while riding the hills of Northern California, he slammed into a tree pelvis first and now he’s got a ‘problem’.  Imagine your friend who is 23 years of age and just had her first baby in tears because sexual intercourse is so painful, she can’t stand to be near her husband.  You cannot imagine it….this is pelvic floor pain.  Never heard of it?  Ok, let’s take it one step further….
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Did you know????  The first National Woman’s Day was observed in the United States on 28 February in 1909.  The Socialist Party of America designated this day in honour of the 1908 garment workers’ strike in New York, where women protested against working conditions. (information courtesy of the United Nations). 

Have a look at the featured image for this month’s blog.  This photo was taken when I was 44 years of age…this was the day I came in 2nd at the National Muay Thai Kickboxing Tournament in Virginia.  115 weight class and I was fighting 20 year olds.  I was fierce; it’s in my genes (funny enough, today I was beating a heavy bag with those same shorts on).   I come from a family of very strong women.  One of my aunts was this country’s first female labor representative; my mother was the first western woman to be published for her Chinese watercolor paintings and at 93 years of age, she still has more talent in her pinkie nail than a room filled with those considered to be gifted.   I was taught by my mother from the time I could understand English that I could do and be whatever I wanted to be; all I had to do was to put my mind to it.   I was never told I couldn’t achieve anything in this life because I was female; ‘female’ wasn’t in the vocabulary of can or cannot…my mother still tells me to this day that I can do anything I set my mind to do – and it’s true.  Courage, intelligence, leadership and prowess all flow freely through my veins.  Rooms shake when I open and enter through their doors…the world is mine to explore and conquer…and I don’t need anyone to hold my hand…call me ‘Mame’…

Not every woman was brought up like I was.  Not every lady out there has a tremendously strong personality or ‘go getter’ personality.  We all have our own individual strengths, talents and goals…great or small.  This is what makes us all unique and special.  Yes, women are unique creatures that have the ability to bear children; and because of this physical gift, we have very different health issues than men.  Sadly, many of us are the caretakers in our families and often times, we neglect our health and basic needs for the sake of others.  Very often, we forget to exercise, eat right, do something nice for ourselves and put off an annual examination and exercise preventative medicine to keep ourselves at our very best.  So in honour of all the great ladies out there….

I declare March to be ME MONTH!  I challenge each and every one of you ladies out there to declare the month of March your own ME MONTH!  Ladies, this month, do 1 thing every day for yourself.  Start with your health first and foremost.  Schedule your annual physical and have your routine bloodwork done.  At the same time, make sure you have your yearly gynecological examination and mammogram.  Plan time with your friends to see one another and have lots of laughs; laughter can sometimes be the best medicine.   If you are experiencing migraines, symptoms of menopause, aches, pains or weight gain, schedule an appointment to see me and together, we will achieve your health goals.  Ladies…you can’t ‘stay in the game’  of life if you can’t PLAY the game.  So, this month, get with the program of YOU.  You deserve to be kind and generous to yourself.

What am I planning to do this month?  Well for starters, I’m back on the Weight Watchers wagon, I’m hitting the heavy bags at the gym 2 more days per week, and as soon as the weather gets a bit warmer, I’ll be back on that skateboard!  Ahhh, the skateboard….my next sport to conquer!  And don’t even think I’ll forget to wear my lipstick 🙂

I am delighted to announce that I am now an authorized medical practitioner with the Veterans’ Administration to provide services to our men and women who are in the Armed Forces.  These services are free for veterans and the process to obtain free treatment is easy:

  • Schedule an appointment with your primary healthcare physician at the VA.  Tell your doctor you would like acupuncture for your condition and give him/her my name.
  • The MD will contact my office with an authorization code and number of treatments allowed.
  • You email or telephone my office to schedule an appointment. It’s that simple!

Many of you suffer from chronic pain, PTSD, phantom pain from amputations, depression/anxiety, addiction to pain killers.  I can help you with these conditions.  You dedicated your life so I can live mine in freedom and safety.  Now it’s YOUR time to be served.  If you have any questions, just call or email my office at 917.701.7582.  info@kelleymondesire.com    www.kelleymondesire.com

This Thanksgiving, let us all be thankful for our men and women in the Armed Forces.

 

Low Level Laser Therapy (sometimes referred to as LLLT or Cold Laser) has been utilized by the medical establishment since 1967. LLLT is a noninvasive, pain free, safe and highly effective method of helping a woman attain a pregnancy. The combination of acupuncture, herbal formulas and LLLT can help a woman attain a pregnancy naturally and can be a very important adjunctive therapy when western therapies (IVF) are being used for conception.

So, how does it work? Every cell in the body contains a mitochondria (you might remember the ‘Mighty Mitochondria’ or ‘powerhouse of the cell’ from your biology class). The mitochondria of the cells produce ATP (cellular energy). Women are born with a finite number of eggs.  As we age, so do our eggs; their quality decreases over time.  Hence, an 18 year old female’s eggs are more energized than a 40 year old woman’s eggs. As a woman ages, the mitochondria in the cells cannot produce the same amount of ATP. ATP is important in fertility because this is what determines the quality of the egg, follicle stimulation, division rate and implantation success of embryos. In short, it’s not so much the age of the woman, but the energy of the cell that determines a viable pregnancy. The more energized the cell, the more oxygenized it is. Oxygen is ‘key’ to increased blood cell production, circulation, hormonal balance, collagen production and the body’s ability to function most efficiently. Because of its ability to stimulate the energy of cells, LLLT is also used for scar tissue reduction and inflammatory conditions of a woman’s reproductive system (two factors that can prevent a woman’s chances of conception).

I have been using LLLT at my clinic for years to help my patients achieve a viable pregnancy. Cold Laser Therapy can help you on your road to a successful pregnancy. Allow me to help you become a mother. Please telephone or email the clinic to schedule a consultation.

References:

LASERmed97;p.138, no112 “Can HeNe Laser Improve Fertility?”, Cohen et al at the Bar-Ilan University, Israel.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3944482, “Personal Overview of the Application of LLLT in Severly Infertile Japanese Females”, Toshio Ohshiro, MD PhD

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2933784/ “Effect of Pulsing in Low-Level Light Therapy”, 1,2,3 Sulbha K. Sharma, MSc,1 Divya Balachandran Kurup, MD,1 Luis De Taboada, MSEE,4 James D. Carroll,5 and Michael R. Hamblin, PhD1,2,5,6,*

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